I just got off the phone with my Hayley. She is suffering from insufferable classes and is just not digging school. Sometimes it's hard to see the big picture when the view is crowded with classes that don't seem to have any real significance on the future. Seriously, if Hayley is going to plan weddings, in what way is knowing Russian history going to help her out? Unless someone wants a Czar themed wedding (and who wouldn't?) .
But, like a good mom, I reminded her that she needed to stay on our auto and health insurance. That helped sway her back to college. But more than anything, she just needed to have a sounding board. She needed to express her frustrations. She needed to know that what she was feeling was not crazy and all that. She also needed to hear that it was worth it, so worth it to get that degree. Don't end up like me, I say. Smarter than the job I am doing, but not educated enough to prove it. (Don't give me the "you can go back to school" lecture either. That is another story).
Just hang in there Hayley. There are going to be tough days and rough days and absolutely suck days. But then you get the good days when you look at what you have accomplished and it will be worth it. So very worth it. I promise you.
Sometimes I forget that my Hayley is no longer My Hayley. She is grown now with her own future. She no longer seeks our permission but values our advice and opinions. How lucky am I that Hayley values what I have to say.
And here is what I have to say. Hang in there. Your path is probably not straight. You will do dumb stuff because you have to. You will put Russian history in your brain and someday at some B-Dubs while watching some game, you will glance up at the trivia game and you will know the that correct answer is Rasputin or Stalin or St. Petersberg. Not "D" a jar of almonds. And you will be thankful for the hell that was this class.
So hang in there. Don't try to force your future. It will come soon enough.
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