On October 8th another beautiful soul came into this world. Practically perfect, she took my heart, including pieces of it that I didn't know I had. Tiny, tiny fingers and toes, a sweet round nose, I was completely unprepared for this love. This grandbaby girl love that truly doesn't compare to any other love I have known (and I've known a few).
There are no grandparent rights, legal, or otherwise. Every moment I have with this grandchild is a gift. The mistakes, real or imagined, that I made with my own children need not be made again. I am not new to this game, overtired or overworked will not apply to me. Every moment shared is an act of faith by her parents that I will only build her up, put her first, fill her heart and the hearts of subsequent grand babies, with joy. And this is a roll I do not take lightly.
When I think of my own grandma and mom, (lofty goals, indeed) I won't try to imitate them, but certainly emulate a few of their traits. Already, I have big, big plans with this little gal. And in the beginning, I imagine those plans will include a little Gordon McRae playing in the background while I tell her amazing stories of where she came from and how many people love her. I will tell her how wide her families are, not bound by blood but by a tremendous love of her parents that now includes her. Blessed with many great grandparents living, I will tell her about those already gone. I will tell her about the big dogs that would have loved her fiercely all the while trying to convince the little one here that this baby is what a best friend looks like. I cannot carry a tune or keep in step but that will not diminish the songs we will sing or the moves we will make.
And the list goes on and on. If I am lucky, if I am blessed to get a whole lot of living with this girl and those that may come along after her, I won't take it for granted. I won't waste my days with idle work when there will be a Nora to learn from and love. I won't take for granted that her mom and dad will bring her to my house instead of a daycare. I won't take it for granted that my husband knows this worth is far greater than the paycheck I would bring home. I won't take it for granted that my grandchild is near me, not across the country or the world, that the stars aligned to keep them close to us.
I was pregnant no where near my parents, there had to be drives across country and flights across the Atlantic for them to meet my children. Watching the little person I made make a little person was really quite amazing. I tried desperately to be like my mom and not offer unsolicited advice (and I failed miserably). And my mom, being a neonatal nurse, was wholly qualified to offer advice! And now, watching these two kids with their kid, I know they need no real advice. They know how to love her with their whole selves and everything else they can google.
Beautiful Anne!! I love the way you write!! Your words are so visual to me as I see your love grow and grow.
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